Unfortunately, I am not in attendance... Tara and Tyler are in Playa del Carmen, Mexico with their families, exchanging vows and uniting their souls, 'til death do they part.
Because I am a full-time student in the midst of an condensed one year professional studies program, I was unable to spare the time (or the cash!) to make the trip to warm, sunny Mexico.
This is the thing with destination weddings: some people will be unable to go. Whether it be for financial, educational, family, or a number of any other reasons.
What you must remember when planning your destination wedding is not to take friends and family members not coming personally. This is the risk that you are taking when decide to plan this sort of wedding. Most people would love to come, and if they are able to, they will.
Tara is totally fine with my not being there. She knows that if I could, I most certainly would be in attendance.
Since cutting through the red tape in Mexico is rather intense, it is difficult to have a binding marital contract if you are not actually citizens. So, Tara and Tyler had a very small ceremony here in Winnipeg the weekend before they left, and Jason and I attended that. It was lovely, simple, and sweet.
Typically speaking though, destination weddings are a great way to keep your numbers down. You can be pretty certain that the only people who are going to come are the people who really, really love you and want to share in your day. And those are the most important people anyway, aren't they?
No need to deal with any distant cousins or old friends getting inappropriately drunk at the reception (on your dime). Guest lists can be slashed with no feelings of guilt whatsoever. Distant relatives and friends are hardly expected to dish out two or three grand for a trip to Mayan. So even if you do invite them, they are unlikely to come.
Obviously, our choice of venue to exchange vows is (almost) local, since we are marrying at Victoria Beach, just about an hour and twenty minutes north of Winnipeg.
However, I can totally understand the appeal of planning a getaway warm-weather-wedding. All the details are looked after by the resort for you - all you need to do is pick the flowers, the food, and the time of day!
You also have a built in honeymoon! Of course, all your family is on your honeymoon with you...
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